I’m a 39-year-old stay-at-home mom of two beautiful girls, ages 11 and 8. I married my college sweetheart (we met at the University of Illinois), and we adopted two cats. Then came a move to Pittsburgh while 8 months pregnant, the kids, then the dog. Shortly after that, my mom moved into town.
Right after that is when I began therapy. Oh, and antidepressants.
Add in my mom’s heart failure, kidney failure and lung cancer…and I was feeling more like a panini: feeling the heat and under pressure!
On April 20, 2011, my mom succumbed to lung cancer. It had been almost exactly a year since her diagnosis.
I went back to my crazy-enough life as a stay-at-home mom in suburban Pittsburgh. I was able to use what I’d learned blogging here in my new line of work.
About the blog
I originally started the blog as a coping tool to deal with the stress of being a member of the Sandwich Generation. The following was my tagline:
“In the family sandwich, the older people and the younger ones can recognize one another as the bread. Those in the middle are, for a time, the meat.” -Anna Quindlen
The blog (originally called Dead Meat!) allowed me an outlet to blow off steam, and to tell my version of life’s events. I realized early on that I had a choice: I could choose to use this space to complain about my lot in life, or I could use it to paint my life with a rose-colored brush, if you will.
I chose the latter. Humor, particularly black humor, was a major coping mechanism, not only for me, but for my mother. Granted, it helped that she was on a heavy dose of “happy pills” (she scared off more than one medical professional by giggling at her morbid condition!), but still.
When writing, I had two main goals: to share a story that would make the reader smile, and to inform the next reader who might have just joined the ranks of the Sandwich Generation. Anyone who hasn’t joined these ranks soon probably soon will…most likely before they are ready.
In the meantime, I still have my dad around, and my husband’s folks as well, so I’m sure this Sandwich Generation topic will come up again. I’ve changed my tagline:
“Life is like a sandwich: the more you add to it, the better it becomes.” -Unknown
It reflects the same outlook on life I’ve always had: cram as much good stuff in as you can.
One way or another, I’m Sandwiched.