I retweeted (forwarded it on, to all you non-twits) it, because I agreed with him and felt it was well-put.
At first, I tried to put it out of my mind. I didn’t want to get bogged down in a Twitter “argument.” There are always people who are going to disagree with you, and chances are, nothing you say will change anyone’s mind, especially if they’re opinionated enough to reply.
But my mind wasn’t ready to let it go so easily.
Man + Woman = Marriage
If I were to reply, I couldn’t say I disagreed with her. I’m a woman, married to a man. That’s what I’m doing, so I agree.
But that’s not where it ends for me.
I understand that many people feel that there’s a moral component. I absolutely respect that. But I guess where I’m coming from is Jesus’ Golden Rule:
“So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.”
-Matthew 7:12 Quest Study Bible NIV
Would I want to live in a society that did not allow me to marry? Not so much. So I don’t feel that I should condemn those who are affected by Proposition 8. Furthermore, I read this passage as well:
“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.”
-Luke 6:37 Quest Study Bible NIV
In my Bible, there are study questions on selected topics. Here are a couple of points that stood out for me (the bolding is mine):
“What’s wrong with standing up for our rights? …Christians with convictions about right and wrong will not idly stand by, blind to injustices against others….Though believers may disagree about the best response, they agree some response against injustice is necessary.”
-Quest Study Bible NIV page 1482
“Did Jesus forbid us from judging others? …We all have planks in our eyes, so to speak; to judge people for the little specks stuck in their eyes while we have planks in our own is arrogance and folly. Those with planks in their eyes can’t see clearly. They are dangerously low in discernment. Since we all have this distorted perspective, we need to either be very humble or else leave judging to God. We have a moral responsibility to judge the behavior of others-but only if we are humbly aware that we will sometimes be dead wrong and never totally right. We must remember that our ability to judge is limited and that we are sinful people who will ourselves be judged one day.”
-Quest Study Bible NIV page 1394
So essentially, I put myself in the place of the homosexuals who want the right to marry. How would I feel, were I in their shoes? I wouldn’t want to be discriminated against, so I cannot support discrimination against them. In my own small way, I hope I am not “idly standing by, blind to injustices” against America’s (and specifically, California’s) gay Americans. In the same way, barriers have been broken against women, immigrants, African-Americans and other people of color or creed. How is it that it’s still okay to discriminate against homosexuals in 2008??
At the same time, I’m trying to refrain from judging all those involved in the controversy. I cannot presume to judge those who are oppressing homosexuals in long-term, committed relationships any more than I can presume to judge the homosexuals themselves. For sure, somewhere in this mess, I am “dead wrong and never totally right.”
Anyone who knows me will tell you that I am definitely non-confrontational, and I’m not looking to start a flame war. I know that this controversy is both political and religious in nature. That said, I do respect the views of those who disagree with me, as long as the discourse is kept respectful. As it’s been said here in America, “I may not agree with what you say, bit I’ll defend to the death your right to say it.”
As for me, I’m trying to err on the side of freedom, and for me that means no on Proposition 8.